When in a trusting relationship, life is good. Phone conversations are open and fun and when time is spent together, there are no unresolved issues or feelings of doubt. Peace floods the heart, all breathing is calm, and thinking is simple. However, once either party breaks that trust, the peaceful, loving bond is now shattered. Life begins to feel bleak and phone conversations are short. When time is exhausted with one another, thoughts of uncertainty take over the mind. Inhaling and exhaling is more difficult to accomplish without a swelling in the throat or sickness in the stomach. All of the sudden, the existence of the relationship is threatened and the once celebrated becomes questioned.
So what is it really the end of the world?
No, not exactly. But the two people involved must be willing to sit down and have a rational, open conversation. No yelling or cursing please. For the individual that feels most betrayed, this could be very hard but it’s the only way to patch up. It’s also up to the betrayed to come into the talk willing to take some of the blame and understand why it happened. So many times, we skip over the reason and go straight to the end result. Therefore, the focus is for the betrayer to fell guilty and ashamed. This method may be effective, but not if saving the relationship is a priority. Umm, it is a priority, right?
For teens, relationship building is critical and essential. When trust is broken in those fragile teenager hearts, life seems to be over for them, at least until the morning. The last thing on their minds is effective communication without being on the defensive or offensive. Because everything that happens seems to be amplified by a thousand, words and phrases will regretfully come out way to hurtful. This helps nobody involved and only burns bridges in the process. Relationships are over and the people dear us become lost.
Every person that is brought into our life is there for a reason. Whether it’s a best friend or a romantic partner, only proper communication will keep that relationship healthy and beneficial. If trust is broken, an open discussion will put it back together. If we think about how many wonderful relationships we have and what we would do if betrayed, most of us still wouldn’t want to lose anybody in our life. How we treat each other in middle school, high school, or college is how we treat one another in the future. Let’s stop blaming and start communicating
