Women, G-spot and sexual issues

You’ve probably wondered just what’s happening to your body when you get aroused. And what about orgasm? What does it feel like? How do you know when you’ve had one?

There are four phases to sexual arousal: Desire, Excitement/Plateau, Orgasm, and Resolution.

In the desire phase, you feel ‘horny’ and you really want sex (or other sexual activity). It is the “mental” part of getting into the mood. When this happens, if you are with your partner, you initiate contact. If you are not, you may try to make contact. This happens because the testosterone in your body.

In the excitement phase, your genital area begins to fill with blood and you start feeling really turned on (your erection starts now). This is immediately and seamlessly followed by the plateau phase, where your erection continues to grow and becomes stable. You will also begin to secret a small amount of a clear fluid, known as “pre-come,” which clears out your urethra of the acidic urine, so that the basic (chemically basic, that is) sperm doesn’t die. Pre-come can contain a small amount of sperm, so if you’re having sex, you can get a girl pregnant even if you don’t ejaculate.

As a man approaches orgasm, sperm and fluid are expelled from within the testes and surrounding area into the base of the urethra. At this point, men know they are about to ejaculate. Then, there is a series of muscle contractions in the area (including the testes, urethra, bladder, prostate gland, and penis) which cause the semen to expel from the penis.

Men experience a refractory period, lasting anywhere from a half-hour (average is 30 to 90 minutes) to a day, where they cannot experience another orgasm. A few men can experience multiple orgasms, but this is rare. During the typical refractory period, though, men cannot respond to any more stimulation, and may actually find it unpleasant. Men may also want to try male sexual enhancement.

Exactly who are you? Exactly what type of mate do you want? Exactly what type of relationship do you want? Are you interested in marriage? Are you secure in your sexuality? Are you comfortable with your body? Are you comfortable with a younger lover? An older lover? How important is it that he/she be financially stable? Does he/she have to be drop dead gorgeous? Fantastically fit?

When we are seeking employment, we spend time creating our r?sum?. We take our time, we do it right. We access our strengths and weaknesses, our special talents, and emphasize the type of employment we are seeking.

We obtain degrees and/or additional schooling to ensure that we are qualified for the best position, don’t we? We aren’t trying to settle for any old job, we’re seeking a lifetime career, right?! we go on interview after interview, and finally — we land the job that we want.

Now — flip the script, and let’s discuss our patterns for seeking a mate. Too many of us are taking shots in the dark. We just want a mate, any mate. Like Al Green, we’re tired of being alone. We’re so damn lonely that we are almost willing to get with anything that is breathing. (tsk, tsk)

Some of us just know that a mate will make us whole. All we need is a mate, is that asking too much? We bring our broken hearts, bruised egos and hurt feelings right along with us. We put a bandage on our wounds and expect another to want us, when we don’t even want ourselves.

Start with self. Once self is alright, everything else will fall in place.We need to put some time, thought and effort into obtaining a lifetime partner. Regardless of age, race, sexual orientation, everybody wants somebody — and — when you ain’t got nobody — somebody … anybody sounds kinda good!

Can we talk? Let’s be serious, o.k? Hell, we need someone who is compatible with us. We need someone we can relate to, someone we can grow with. What are your requirements? Yes, I said requirements. We need to think of ourselves too you know. How many of the following characteristics do you possess? How many of them do you seek in a mate?

Affection
Arguing skills
Attitude
Commitment
Communication
Compatibility
Considerate
Creativity
Financial responsibility
Flexibility
Friendship
Generosity
Gift-giving
Honesty
Household management
Listening skills
Lovemaking
Love of Life
Patience
Physically Fit
Physically Attractive
Playful
Romance
Self-awareness
Self-esteem
Sense of humor
Sense of self
Sensitivity
Spirituality
Spontaneity

Just as we take time and effort to ensure our employment r?sum? is in order before we seek employment, we must ensure that our relationship r?sum? is in order before we seek a lifetime mate.

I love it when I lay on my back with my legs on my man’s shoulders at the edge of the bed. My man is standing and banging my na na.  He pulls up on my hips and slams repeatedly.  He hits bottom.   This is such a feeling.  Try it!!!

I like it when I sit on a chair and the female sits on top facing me!

I love doggie style, the feeling of him pounding me and grinding his manilness into me, as I brace myself against the head board or wall, so that he can ram me as hard as he wants…..I love this!

I like it when I’m getting hit from the back and my man can take my legs and lift them and place them on his shoulders so it goes so deep… and it keeps getting deeper and deeper and faster and faster till we both explode!

I like it when a guy has me on my back with both legs bent back towards my head and him banging the p*ssy and listening to his balls hit against my azz!!!!

“Who won’t appreciate Breakfast in Bed? This is an oldie, but a definite goodie.

Wake up approximately an hour or two before your mate. Close the bedroom door so the aroma of breakfast cooking won’t wake him or her. Go through your morning wake up routine, and then head for the kitchen. Prepare his/her favorite breakfast foods and don’t forget the coffee, tea or juice.

Allow him/her a few minutes to freshen up, and then breakfast in bed is served. He/she will LOVE it!”

B).
“Hire a limousine to pick your boo up after work on Friday. (It’s more affordable than you think) Have the driver bring your boo home.

When he/she walks in the door, have his/her favorite Romantic Song playing in the background. Have a bath ready, scented with his/her favorite bath product. There should be at least 6 candles burning to create a romantic glow.

Bathe your boo, and wash his/her hair too.   When he /she emerges from the bath water, rub him/her down with some warm body oil, then offer him/her a robe. Lead him/her into the bedroom, (make sure the bed is covered with red rose petals)

Once he/she is comfortably seated in the bed, go to the kitchen and bring his/her favorite meal and beverage (which you prepared earlier) on a tray and serve him/her dinner in bed.”

C).”Take a moonlit stroll along the lake. You and your mate can enjoy the serenity of the lakefront, as you enjoy each other’s company. No hustle, no bustle… just the two of you.

Talk about things. share each other’s hopes and dreams. Hug each other. Kiss each other.

Sometimes the simple things are the best things. This outing won’t cost either of you one cent. The best things in life are free.”

D). “Play the Favorite Things game. Take a pad and a pen and  list a group of your favorite things as he does the same. For example your list may contain your favorite:

* Color
* Song
* Fast Food
* Expensive Food
* Designer
* Beverage
* Actor/Actress
* Performing Artist
* Author
* Fragrance
* Bath Product
* etc…

This game will allow you to learn things about your mate you may not have known, and vice versa.”

E). “Call your favorite radio station and dedicate a love song to your boo.” Record the dedication, because he or she may not be listening at the time. Play it for him/her later, and watch his/her face light up!”

F). Love Coupons. Put a new twist on an old idea. Instead of buying your mate a card, create homemade Love Coupons. Give your boo coupons that say:

* This entitles you to a bath
* This entitles you to a  full body massage
* This entitles you to a homemade dinner

Be creative. Creative your own Love Coupons, and turn him/her on … tonight.